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Unsaid expectations can keep us, our loved ones, and our colleagues doing work we didn’t ask for, and continually riding an endless wheel of let down, disappointment, frustration, confusion and resentment without knowing why. Meet “invisible job descriptions,” the relational healing framework I developed to identify these unconscious, default patterns for what they are and rework them into new habits and scripts that serve, not require sacrifice. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fbdd2f5df132613bbaaad66/0eb860cc-a2fd-46df-933d-1df600d7bd93/IHWT_Calvin.png In Healing We Trust Collaborative Coaching and Skills Building - Hi, I’m Calvin. I’m a certified professional coach, a healer and workplace consultant whose mission is to radicalize relationship structures of all kinds. Examining the implicit “invisible job descriptions” we assign helps us see how we’re trying (and maybe not always succeeding) at getting our needs met. With that awareness, my work facilitates new opportunities to move outside of default patterning and behaviors, so actions can lead with more clarity and intentionality. My approach is grounded in real talk and humor. I’m direct, but I’ll always seek to be kind. I see systems and habits in place where they don’t need to be, and where new structures could exist instead. I believe in curiosity over conclusions, and my neurodivergent brain has a superpower of connecting unseen dots into a bright constellation of relational satisfaction. 40 years of hard-earned experience in relationship building (and what it looks like when we burn it all down instead) has brought me here, including decades of experience in collaborative work. I spent 10+ years in Silicon Valley and now apply my “design thinking” training to relationships of all varieties in all parts of our lives. I’m a neurodivergent, non-monogamous, white trans man, once married & painfully uncoupled and now best friends with my ex. Grew up in small town poverty, abuse survivor, recovering perfectionist and people pleaser. Rethinking and redesigning personal and professional relationships of all kinds is a legit passion and superpower of mine. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fbdd2f5df132613bbaaad66/1614182095984-N7FKGIKWYZUWHWQO7HY9/Healing_Hub.png In Healing We Trust Collaborative Coaching and Skills Building - Magnify your healing support Everyone can benefit from a multi-directional approach to find the healing they need when they’re ready to receive it. Here’s a curated list of trusted folks doing powerful work that can help you identify and release what is no longer serving you. Each of these healers has inspired and helped me heal a great deal, and may offer you a new road into your own understanding and action. https://inhealingwetrust.com/invisible-job-descriptions daily 0.75 2023-07-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fbdd2f5df132613bbaaad66/cac6691d-2afc-43be-a537-79d2332feb5e/IHWT_Graphic2-nicething.jpg Intro to Invisible Job Descriptions, Our Unseen Expectations - It feels good to have a role, to be known for something — until it doesn’t. What starts as care can sometimes turn into invisible jobs we unknowingly assign each other. Like the time you brought your hammer to your partner’s house to nail some portraits on the wall, only to find yourself labeled as “the handy one” for the rest of your relationship. You’re glad to help, but you’d prefer they didn’t automatically assume you’d always be available or willing to do all handywork for the rest of time. When did your hobby get so job-y? It’s not just happening at home either. The workplace is full of unsaid expectations, and it’s contributing to slow work processes, frustration and confusion at all levels of organizations, mistakes made, and innovations not attempted. When we make assumptions without fully communicating, we assign jobs without contracts to the people around us, and sometimes to ourselves. These expectations are so often under the radar and in the darkest parts of our understanding. Addressing these expectations is like putting on night vision goggles that allow us to see, and therefore shift, the dynamics we’re asking of ourselves and the people we care about. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fbdd2f5df132613bbaaad66/2e704492-dc1a-4ba7-93a7-96983ec4679d/IHWT_Disappointment.jpg Intro to Invisible Job Descriptions, Our Unseen Expectations - The undercover roles we assign each other turn offers of care into unexpressed expectations. When expectation becomes involuntary and talking about our needs gets stifled, miscommunication (or our lack of communication) can create the ideal temperature for disappointment and resentment to grow. Depending on how we show that disappointment, we may start unwittingly training others that it’s not a good thing when our requests don’t work for them, increasing the chances we’ll receive a “false positive” yes when we ask and trigger their own resentment. What happens when one person is wearing disappointment and the other is wearing resentment? Let’s just say these two looks clash together. Our work together can provide insights into unsaid expectations, new relationship scripts to redirect your conversations for the better, and tangible systems and tools to facilitate expanded awareness and action. 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What I offer is thoughtfully curated based on what has been powerful in my own healing through the wounds of childhood poverty, abuse, learning challenges, wobbly self-trust, perfectionism, sensitive energetic antennas, being queer and trans, and existing within toxic systems of power. It’s taken years of ingrained people pleasing, resentment and heartbreak — as well as a hell of a lot of self awareness — to get to a point where I can advocate for my needs and meet them for myself more and more every day. How we see ourselves, relate to each other, and tell our own stories has the power to heal us and hold us up — if we let it. Reiterating and redesigning relationships for this purpose has become my life’s work in so many ways, and I’m excited to share it with you. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5fbdd2f5df132613bbaaad66/416ba903-5ca6-44bd-8fa3-26f5cc671fc8/Calvin2.jpg About Calvin West As a trans man who grew up queer and poor in a conservative town, as a survivor of childhood trauma, growing up socialized as female, even being a ginger, I got messages from family, school, media, laws — anywhere that has air to breathe — that I was both too much and not enough. I grew up learning that my needs were secondary, if they were acknowledged at all, and that I had to minimize those needs in order to survive, to belong, and to be worthy of being lovable. I brought those conditioned messages with me everywhere I went, and far into my adult life. I was always taking too much in relationships at the wrong time, or giving too much of myself, boundaries be damned. I expected the people around me to read my mind, and to meet needs that were really for me to tend to on my own. Meanwhile, I rushed to meet everyone else’s perceived needs, often long before they anticipated them. I was constantly scared of being found lacking, yet I simultaneously found others lacking all the time. I over-gave what I didn’t have because I was afraid that others couldn’t give it to me in return. In some ways it is a wonder that I was in a sixteen year non-monogamous relationship, with marriage and the last nine of those years being business partners. I loved her deeply. I also wanted her to meet expectations I had for our relationship and business that I thought would keep us safe and secure — expectations she certainly did not share because they were rooted in my trauma and fear, not hers. I thought this was the full extent of what love was, because I didn’t have models for what was possible or how we could act instead. When that sixteen year relationship entered a point of crisis— what felt like a blow of betrayal shook me to my soul and disrupted my entire identity. Grief and rage flowed out of me, for weeks, for months, targeted straight at her. It wasn’t until later, in the depths of healing, that I acknowledged my part. I could see more clearly how the strategies I adopted as a kid in chaos to get my needs met had created countless invisible job descriptions for us both. When I was able to begin recognizing how I contributed to our relationship — to all of my relationships — I found new approaches for what more easeful, joyful, and balanced connection could feel like. These days, my former spouse is my best friend, and our relationship is stronger and more honest than it’s ever been. I love her now more for who she is than I think I ever could have before, not just who I thought she could or should be. And I met someone who I use these tools with every day. 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