It’s time to talk about it — invisible job descriptions, that is.

Speaking, workshops and podcast guesting for your next event, experience or appearance.

Let’s make “we have to talk” a good thing to hear.

If there’s anything I love as much as doing this work, it’s talking about it (my friends can confirm — it’s a frequent topic of conversation). That’s because I believe in the power of knowing the invisible job descriptions we assign so we can create fewer “jobs” and more joy for ourselves and each other. And because that joy can come from learning how we can relate to our expectations and communication, my mission is to share this work widely. So let’s talk about talking — and how I can do that on your podcast, at your workplace, organization, in your community, or even your friend group.

Speaking, Workshops & Podcasts

Create a common language with your team or audience about the expectations we have, why they matter, and what to do about them. Host me to talk about invisible job descriptions and the effect they have on all kinds of relationships, from the personal to the professional. We can dive into concepts, real world examples, and concrete skills building.

What we can talk about

Working together is like a choose-your-own adventure. Here are some of the places we can go and what we can explore along the way.

  • Invisible Job Descriptions are the unspoken expectations we assign each other and ourselves — and knowing about them can save time, frustration, and relationship.

  • We can talk about the fundamental differences and nuances between a need, boundary and preference that give our expectations the shape they have, and how we can use them for good.

  • Breaking down these ideas into easy-to-follow stories is one of my superpowers, and they offer plenty of humor and levity along the way.

  • We can look at the ways to investigate inherited beliefs and expectations to decide what actually works, and what is ready to be reworked.

  • We can look at alternate models for doing relationships of all kinds and learn how to permission ourselves to get and give true support.

  • Learn how to create new processes and find tools that are supportive and intuitive for how our brains and nervous system naturally operate.

  • Understand the cycle of expectation, disappointment and resentment, and learn how to shift that cycle into new choices, patterns, beliefs and behaviors.

  • Learn what we can do to alleviate moments of tension with whom we care about, and how we can make our needs and expectations more explicit.

  • We can discuss how to reduce shame, build resilience and increase compassion for the moments when our needs cannot be met externally.

Conversation in Action

Want to get a feel for my approach, my sense of humor and my knowledge first? I tend to lean toward how a chat organically unfolds and I customize interviews and speaking engagements to each specific audience, but the heart, info and conversational ease I bring is consistent. Here’s a podcast interview I’ve done that gives a good example of one way a conversation can flow.

On The Pop-up Pod, I talk with Nicole Antoinette about the invisible job descriptions we often create for ourselves and our partners, stories we keep alive that keep us in certain roles, boundaries and requests, and getting more comfortable with hearing a “no” from our partner when we make a request. In the lane of relationship design, we also talk about weddings, what the purpose may be for each person individually and how rewriting traditions can bring more connection and depth to a gathering.

Full transcript of this episode provided by Nicole.

Listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Invisible Job Descriptions: The Team Edition

From your workplace to your friend group, I offer thoughtfully designed and paced workshops and consulting to give teams and chosen family a common language, shared understanding and dedicated skills building.

Great for: teams and groups of three or more who want to get on the same page and create a shared understanding, vocabulary and tools for navigating expectations, handling emotional upsets and rewiring relationship patterns.

Workshops

Through part lecture, part discussion and part hands-on exercises, we’ll look at how we can minimize patterns of miscommunication, mistakes and mistrust in order to maximize fulfilling (and more efficient) ways of relating and creating.

You’ll get an introduction to invisible job descriptions, how they can show up in team dynamics, and how the cycle of holding expectations shows up (and sometimes gets in the way).

We’ll build on a foundation of understanding with a menu of supportive strategies that you and your groups can call on to get more done in collaboration and contentment.

Consulting

Together we’ll audit your existing ways of relating that you and your team shares, and examine the role invisible job descriptions play in your specific team or group dynamics.

We’ll look at how existing patterns of expectation, let down and communication breakdowns have come to be, and identify new tools to express needs, prioritize incoming requests, and process

Our goal will be to understand what you reach for in distress and what can bring you more rest. I bet you have some awesome superpowers you give to others often (and yourself rarely). Let’s tune them up. 

Ready to share this wisdom with your team, organization or audience?

Let’s get the conversation started about how we may be able to collaborate and curate something for your group.

Together we can share knowledge and build new skillsets on your podcast, at your workplace, your organization, in your community, or even your friend group, while having some laughs along the way.

“The language Calvin uses and the way he applies big concepts to real life I can relate to made me feel seen and supported. I started using my new insights immediately .

I didn’t know I could laugh and heal at the same time.” 

— BOBBY N.

Want to see my work in action first?

Coaching and skills building is ideal for you if you want a clearer look at the patterns and behaviors that are driving your everyday actions and conversations.

It’s even more ideal if you feel like you’re saying so much, and still left feeling unheard, if you find yourself sitting in disappointment a lot of the time, and especially if you feel like the answers should be common sense but you’re not getting the outcomes you’re looking for.